01-06-2020 6:15 pm
We are often asked why are there so many 22nd July monuments?, or don't the bereaved have their graves to go to? To answer the last question first, yes we do have my sisters grave to go to. If you ask my parents which "monument" is the most important to them, it is without a doubt - Sharidyns headstone. When I asked my mum before writing this why, she answered:
"Your sisters grave is where Sharidyn rests. Her grave and her headstone is deeply personal to us. It represents the brutality of her death and is a horrible reminder every single time we visit her, that here lies our beautiful 14-year-old daughter killed by a white Norwegian supremacist who terrorised, hunted, maimed and/or heinously and without remorse killed men, women and children - emphasis on children. Why because she was of foreign descent.
When we stand in front of Sharidyn's grave and headstone, we have to force ourselves to remember all the things that we miss and love about her. Her grave is the one place where that is almost impossible for us to do, because of how she died. Parents should never outlive their child, let alone bury a murdered child because she had a multi-cultural background.
We plant new flowers - normally roses every year to bring life to her grave. Her flowers don't erase the brutality of her death, but the process of planting new flowers means that even though she is no longer here with us, your dad and I can still do something that means more than most people will ever know, for our daughter. Planting flowers at Sharidyns grave, especially in spring is our way of bringing life to her memory.
Our daughters grave and headstone is not and will never be a 22nd of July monument."